In my experience people have not found happiness and satisfaction in life, because of this one simple lesson. You may already grasped it and it will not be such a huge idea, but for me this is vast and I will try my best to explain it. The lesson being: that you can not escape your darkness.
There are so many aspects to this so I will break them down as I go, but they all circumscribe into one great whole. I hope is that by the end you are able to put them all together from two separated posts. My journey in awareness on this started from asking myself one question:
Do I love and accept myself?
Have you ever asked your self this question? I do not think many people have thought about this. To some people loving yourself comes naturally. For others especially women have a more difficult time with it, as we tend to beat ourselves up emotionally more than men. If you ask yourself this honestly, can you answer “yes”? Do you love and accept your whole self? This means the light and the dark within you.
The Power Of Yin and Yang
The symbol of the Yin and Yang is very powerful. I started to understand it on a deeper level the simpleness of its teaching, all together in one symbol.
We all have light and dark inside of us. Do you know what your darkness is? Do you love your self in spite of it? Have you moved into the space of being grateful for it? Because without it, and the lessons it has taught you, you would not be who you are today. You are who you are because of the mistakes you have made. The result of those choices will always be a part of us.
We will always be at war with ourselves if we do anything other than accept and be aware of our darkness. Do not be in denial. There is always light that comes from our darkness. Strength comes because of the experiences we have had and the lessons we have learned from them. Only loving and accepting your whole self will transform that darkness into light, and make the weaknesses into a strength.
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
Your True Authentic Self
If you try and cut out, change, ignore, or hide the darkness in you, you are not being your true and authentic self. What we end up doing is exactly that. We try and cut it out of us, or change it and beat it into submission, sweep it under the rug or hide it from others. In this process of denial and hiding, we end up building another version of ourselves without our darkness. This happens because we choose to not see our darkness, and do not want others to see it. We then present this new false version of ourself to the world, as a perfect new person. This new false image is built from our ego and ends up becoming an idol unto ourself.
Have you built yourself an idol? Do you wear a mask to the world to convince them that you have no darkness? This idol is holding you back from the things you want most in this life. The highest vibration we can have is when we are being our true self. We must shift our perspective on how we see our own darkness as well as the darkness in others. It is the experience and lessons from our darkness, that makes us stronger creations. Start seeing yourself as the Yin and Yang, a whole being, prefect with everything that makes you, YOU. Start loving yourself there.
The Power of Vulnerability
How do we get rid of this idol? How do we find our true self as a creation of dark and light?
We have to do the EXACT opposite of what we have been doing. This idol was built because you did not want others to see your darkness, so expose it! Do not hide it in secret and pretend it is not there, bring it into the light and let the light change it. Own up to who and what you are, face the darkness and take courage. I wont lie, it is very scary. This idol is part of you, and it will feel like a part of you is dying, because it is. You do suffer a kind death in a way, but part of you is gonna have to die to change. After it is done you will feel the freedom, a lightness of soul will come.
“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”
If we all have darkness as a part of us, why are we all trying to hide it?
We get rid of our idol by being vulnerable with our darkness. Imagine the power that would come if one person decided to be vulnerable. Being vulnerable is not a negative condition. Strength often comes from being vulnerable. This is where you are able to identify and acknowledge your own limitations and find new ways.
Let go of the fear of being vulnerable and embrace your true and authentic self. It is your choice to be vulnerable. There is inner freedom that comes when choose to be vulnerable from not hiding and being able to present your true and authentic self to the world.
The idol that you have built up must be sacrificed and crucified. Tear it down and love yourself as your true and authentic self. Embrace the yin and the yang inside of you.
“The only way that we can live is if we grow. Only way we can grow is if we change. The only way we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we are exposed is if we throw ourselves into the open.” – C. Joybell
Only Who and What You Are
When we give ourselves permission to be only who and what we are, we then can function in our own power. You then receive all of the things you are seeking in life. You will find a fulness of joy and the law of attraction will work for you and not against you. Being your true self brings abundance and you will accomplish the things you were sent here to do, your purpose. When you are your true self, you are at your highest frequency, and relationships and life will start to shift and adjust to that frequency. People will either rise up with you and their frequencies will rise, or they will leave you and fall away.
You can only fulfill what you are meant to do by being true to yourself. If Jesus is your example, it is said: “If He were anything different from what He is, He would not be saved; for His salvation depends on His being precisely what He is and nothing else;”
This post is continued with the healing part of this lesson in: Love and Accept Yourself.